The measure of my growth is in the number of my foolishness I’ve been able to realize and transform to wisdom. One of my foolish act of the past is picking offense when I advise people and they do not take to my advice. Some years back I realized offering my own insight without an expectation is a better way of life. If I am not at the receiving end, then the MATTER THAT MATTERS is to respect others’ opinion and let them enjoy their ‘power of will’. I realize that to be more productive in our relationship with people, we must;
1. Acknowledge that We Might Be Wrong: When we advise others, we risk assuming that we have a full grasp of the problems they’re facing and we’re filtering their problem from our own experience. It is far better to respect the other person’s intelligence and simply be there for them, instead of trying to impose your experience as the ‘answer’ on them. Learn to use the word; ‘I think …’and don’t try to make it ‘a must do’.
2. Appreciate Diversity: Tolerance is the plurality of modern society, being willing to live and let others live too. When we fail to tolerate others’ belief, ways of being, and opinions, the end result can be discrimination, repression, dehumanization, and ultimately violence. Of a truth, some people are not reasonable in their dealings but some people will have to be foolish for wisdom to continue to have value. Bear it!
3. Understand Others: The fact that we are product of various influence is suffix to vindicate others; we have different background, life experience, exposure, educational level, belief, religion, culture et al. And all these are what constitute our thoughts and behavior. The world will be boring if we are all the same.
©Hon. Psalm 11/10/2012
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To be productive in your relationship, don’t think in absolute and don’t hold to conviction without ever considering the viewpoints and perspectives of others.
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